Suggestions for Coping
"Grief" is a natural response to any loss and unique to each person. We grieve not only the death of a loved one, but all losses, like divorce, retirement or relocation. The grief process is long-term, having no logical pattern, order or timetable. Grief affects us both emotionally and physically, and the intensity will depend upon many factors, including the relationship one had with the deceased.
"Mourning" is taking the internal experience of grief and expressing it outside oneself. Sadly, people are often told to "be strong" or "keep busy" instead of sharing their feelings. This can inhibit the healing process, causing people to grieve in isolation. Grief is something to be experienced not overcome. We never "get over" the grief of a significant loss, but can come through it by integrating those losses into who we are.
If you love deeply, you will grieve deeply. If you deny your grief, you deny the love you felt. By gradually exploring your memories, while expressing your feelings, you may begin to let go of the pain and the emotional investment. Letting go gradually does not mean forgetting the person who died, but rather re-orienting yourself to put energy toward living fully once again.
Hall-Wynne's service does NOT end after the funeral. We are always available to offer a listening ear and to serve as a resource to those struggling through loss by referring people to the many area support groups and providing valuable information to those seeking help through difficult bereavement.